Sometimes I just want to write a bunch of crazy stuff on here to see if anyone even reads it.
Stuff like, "Three of my kids are from four different men" or "I've only been to prison twice" or "My tattoo sleeves are really skin art" or "it's only really bad when it flares up in the summer....you'll be fine" or "I like hunting". Do men even read these profiles?
So....if you do, great. I'm me. Nice to meet ya. I'm working on becoming a better version of myself every day, and I hope you are, too.
Out the gate:
I actually read profiles, because I look for depth in a man. If people are so gorgeous that they have only ever had to show up, they usually bore me to tears. I like meeting people who have grown comfortable with themselves over time….its how life worked out for me and I’m thankful I can hold my own in nearly any situation, and I’m not ever expected to just stand there and look good.
I like lots of stuff. We might like a lot of similar things. I’ve never been hunting, but I have shot a strawberry shortcake McDonald’s toy off of a ledge with a gun that starts with the word Gloch. In Montana. That was freaking awesome. I will go camping, but I prefer a bed. I don't bake. Yeast freaks me out. I'm a fantastic cook.
My ex-husband isn't 101% to blame in my divorce, GASP! We were both really stupid and selfish and we thought serving missions and being chaste and a temple marriage bought us a free pass for eternity. We were wrong and we expected too much and weren't prepared enough. Lesson learned! (If you take no blame in the demise of your marriage, get some therapy)
I'm a Cafeteria Mormon. This means that church isn't the end-all be-all in my life. Heavenly Father gave me a brain because He expects me to use it. He gave me a heart because He expects me to follow it. I have become much happier and peaceful by letting go of the shame and guilt that infiltrates the lives of so many women in the church.
I don't think that God manipulates His children to penance. I would rather make BIG mistakes and end up making the right choices than make the right church choices and make a BIG mistake. For example.....I wouldn't get married to someone so I could sleep with them and later find out that my hormones led me straight into Divorce #2. No thanks, not putting all that business on my plate. All the stuff that makes me feel at peace, tho? I will take a second helping of that, thanks.
I won't get serious with any pornography addicts, and it has little to do with them. It has everything to do with me and how that behavior affects me as the woman in a relationship. A man who would rather choose to look at a computer screen than throw down with real flesh and blood is a man that I would struggle being happy with. I really feel strongly that if anyone has intimacy issues that are this deep, they should consider staying single, because its a train wreck waiting to happen. Women don't want to feel second rate, and I certainly wouldn't choose that mind bending life ever again.
I have been dating off and on for nearly three years, and I have learned that online dating is a great way to meet a lot of people, but not necessarily a good way to focus on just one. I admit, I loved the attention in the beginning. I think we all need to feel desirable again out of difficult relationship. I'm over it now. I'm sure there are a lot of beautiful women on here. I don't need to hear that from multiple men in a day. I want to hear it from one. The guy who sees my messy hair and thirsty heart and digs me anyway will get my full attention. I'm tired of juggling, I'm not very good at it.
I'm not planning on having any more kids, and my youngest is 4, so if that freaks you out, be honest with yourself, cause I'm not getting rid of her! ;) I have a career and I am busy. I get up early at 5am, so I don't stay up until all hours yacking on the phone. I'm out at 10pm.
I still expect men to treat me like a lady, even though this process is unconventional. If I think you are interesting, I will message (syou. If I'm not interested, I probably won't write back, no need wasting anyone's valuable time. If I don't get back to you five minutes after you write me, don't be offended. And if you send me an email attempting to offend me for offending you by not writing you back, then phew! and yay me! dodging that bullet! Also, and this is really just a tip.....asking to call or text a woman is the respectful thing to do. "Text Me" is lame. Be a gentleman and ask her for her phone number like we all did in the days of yore. She will appreciate it more than you know....you'll be the only guy who has asked her nicely in a long while.
All the best to everyone on here, may we be ready when that person who is just right knocks on our door.