I am a musician-gone-correctional officer! I traded in my eyeliner and leather pants for handcuffs and a uniform. The job itself isn't as exciting, but I've found it to be incredibly interesting. It fits well with my schooling (I'll have my bachelor's degree in Criminal Justice Administration in Summer, 2013), and it has given me awesome insight into how some people behave and think.
I still write and perform when I have the chance, but working full time, going to school full time, and raising my children as a single dad gives me less opportunity to do those things than i had in the past.
I was born in the church but it wasn't until 2003 that I was truly converted. I have been unstoppable in my church activity since then! I have an absolute and solid testimony of our Savior, His Gospel, His church, and of His ancient and modern-day prophets. I do my best to live the commandments as I learn them, and I honor my Father in Heaven through faithful obedience and reverence in exercising the priesthood. I love getting church callings and seeing what our Father in heaven wants me to learn and perfect in my life.
I've been hammered with numerous trials in the past few years and I know it is true that these things are for our benefit and they forge us into stronger people! My two favorite scriptures are about our ability to overcome all that is placed in front of us, not stopping at what we think is the furthest we can go. Miracles happen when we reach those dead ends and i love seeing His power in my life. I can't imagine turning my back right at the cusp of those precious moments.
My children and I have not yet been sealed. I've already dated and married someone who was 'almost ready' to go to the temple, and I cannot settle for 'almost' anymore. I prefer not to date someone who is widowed and sealed to that spouse because of our situation, but I do pray about all serious decisions and will do whatever our Father in Heaven wants me to do, so i can't rule anyone or any situation out completely. I'm not looking for a 'career woman' who 'doesn't need a man' - I want to be able to cleave unto my companion and she to me, and "none else!" I want to be the provider and protector to my children and the woman who nurtures and completes our home.
I am looking for my best friend and equal, both my audience and star. I'm not looking to conquer or be served; I am serious about the 'equal'! I want opportunities to exercise the priesthood within my own home and to have someone beside me to love and cherish. I miss sharing the magic of life with someone else - it is probably one aspect of being single that stings the deepest.
I am not wealthy or attractive. The back seat of my car is obviously inhabited by 3 and 5 year-olds. I don't get as much exercise as I'd like but I can still carry two sleeping kids and several bags of groceries in one trip AND get the keys out of my pocket and into the front door.
When I have time (that elusive thing!) I like to ride my mountain bike, go camping, play soccer, and cartwheel down mountainsides attached to a snowboard (you've gotta see it - it's embarrassing). I also read (a lot), sing karaoke, cook, love road trips, love to write and draw, and am a master of cellphone photography and Photoshop. I would rather play sports than watch them on television, but i don't mind watching a good film every now and then. I love attending the temple, singing in choir, teaching, and seeing what my kids have colored or drawn in Primary.
My children are in the beginning of their lives. Most women my age have teenagers. I prefer to date a woman with no children or children nearer mine in age.
I'm incredibly busy right now. I need to put that up front! I work 50 to 60 hours a week, work weekends, go to sleep early (I leave for work at 4am and sometimes don't get home until 10pm), spend my spare time on homework or playing with my daughter, and those things really make me hard to pin down. I worry about seeming unreliable, shady, disinterested or uncaring ... I know it frustrates people to call me to go out and my answer is nearly always, "I can't." I want to meet people, I want to date, and I would like to find an awesome person with whom I share enough to enjoy and differ enough to learn from. I don't yet know how that will happen, but it will ... somehow. :)
If you are imperfect but seeking personal perfection, can handle my un-hotness, and will love my kids as your own, contact me! If you've children of your own I promise I can love them as if they were mine. I'm a good guy and an awesome dad (references available upon request).
Thanks for reading!