I imagine that I must seem rather awkward, and usually quiet - or at least that's the impression I get, when I try to imagine what I look like to someone who hasn't gotten to know me. (Hopefully that's how we all seem, when we see ourselves in other people's videos of us, and such.)
I figure that the one thing that I always ask myself when I see that someone else is divorced, is "what happened?" so...
...I see it that I lost my wife of 15 years to Paranoid Schizophrenia. Which is not to say she died, rather that she stopped taking her medication, gave up on life, gave up on us, and pretty much gave up on everything important, and then could not be convinced to not leave me, and instead she filed for divorce; which subsequently required me to move back to the States, as my legal residency in Spain was dependent upon being married to her, a Spaniard.
I cannot believe I've been back in So Cal for 2 years, as I write this, but that's my big story that will hopefully scare away any of the undeserving, but hopefully not any of the ones that I don't wish to scare off.
So if you still think you might want to find out what I'm like when you get to know me, please don't hesitate to message me.
A few weaknesses, that may bother some:
I sometimes drive too fast, but I'm currently trying to do better at that. (If there were a proposition to raise the speed limit, I would vote for it.)
Personally, I know I can get a little wound-up emotionally about politics, although I do a decent job of still being polite, but I know that bothers some people, so I thought I should mention it. I like the Republican Party, but not more than I love liberty and conservative values. So, if you have somehow deluded yourself into thinking that a good Mormon can support Democrats, (even in Utah or Nevada,) we simply WON'T get along on politics, period.
Another emotional weakness of mine is that I'm still afraid of dating someone with kids, partly because I'm admittedly shallow like that, partly because of fear; that somehow I might make things worse. I don't have any children of my own, although I really would like to someday, sooner-than-later, but I'm still trying to figure out where I am "at" on this subject- just FYI.
Finally, my worst emotional weakness is the fear of betrayal. I am fiercely loyal, I steadfastly live up to the standards that I commit to, and I don't deserve to waste time rebuilding my shattered emotional and trust issues, (even if it wasn't her fault, and she had no control over her own emotions,) I just can't go through my life falling apart again. So, I imagine that it requires a great deal of patience to deal with my glacially slow rate of commitment, with the payoff being that I am reciprocally patient, and even slower to break a commitment, than I am to make one.
[ tl;dr -) no dems, no moms, no cheaters ]