My name is Ray; "midnightgolfer" is a nickname from my last job. Although I don't actually golf, I used to work night-shift a lot, and my coworker heard it from a MadTV skit, and I still kind of like the sound of it.
I'm a relatively laid-back guy, that still likes being quite active, even though I sometimes feel a little out of place in very social situations. (Do you ever have that feeling like you're never lonely, until you're actually out in public, but when you're by yourself you don't think about it anymore?)
I figure that the one thing that I always ask myself when I see that someone else is divorced, is "what happened?" so...
...I lost my wife to Paranoid Schizophrenia, while we were living in Spain. Which is not to say she died, rather that she stopped taking her medication, gave up on life, gave up on us, and pretty much gave up on everything important, and then could not be convinced to not leave me, and instead she filed for divorce; which subsequently required me to leave her there in her country, and move back to the States, as my legal residency in Spain was dependent upon being married to her, a Spaniard.
I cannot believe I've been back in Southern California for 2 years, as I write this. I went to High School here, and I am grateful that my prayers and pleadings with God, (while they didn't result in my ex and I reconciling,) did result in the blessing of my being able to come back, get a job, and live near my family.
I have a few weaknesses, that may bother some:
Despite being otherwise "laid-back" personally, I know I can get a little wound-up emotionally about politics. Although I do a decent job of still being polite, I know it bothers some people, so I thought I should mention it. I love liberty and also conservative values, more than I like the Republican Party itself. I don't think voters need to be classified into just two party affiliations, but if you have somehow deluded yourself into thinking that a good Mormon can support a Democrat, (even in Utah or Nevada,) we simply won't get along on politics, period. But, life is not all about politics, it's just something I enjoy talking about.
Another emotional weakness of mine is that I'm uncertain about dating a woman who already has kids. Of course, this comes partly because I'm admittedly shallow and insecure like that. Perhaps this stems from my still feeling like my own current immaturities were going to somehow go away, while raising my own hypothetical children. Although I never had any children of my own, I really would like to someday, sooner-than-later.
Lastly, I'm still new to this, but I make an effort to reply to anyone who sends me a an actual message on here.