Hi, I'm Candi...I've been out of the dating force :) for six or seven years now. I was divorced officially in '94, and haven't really dated seriously since then. Raising two incredible sons, making a beautiful home and wonderful memories for them and working myself silly with a home based small business have needed all the energy this fireball has had.
I have sweet people approach all of the time asking, "Why hasn't somebody swept you off your feet." They think I'm pretty, funny, a great catch and can't figure out why I'm single. In addition to the above explanation, I believe it would have overcomplicated life for my sons. And raising them and protecting them to the very best of my ability and providing a safe, secure, and lovely place they can call "home" has been my top priority.
The boys are getting older now and asking "Don't you have somewhere to go tonight mom?...." They'll both be off at college in just over a year. And I think they're telling me to get my fanny out there and make myself a new community of singles to play with, wholesomely.
So, here I am. I'm excited, a little apprehensive, ready, but not really. I'm not going to be a serial dater type. I am more the marrying gal. But, I don't want to open the door with that because I'd be scared off real fast if someone came at me with marrying as the first focus. I'll move somewhat slowly, learning, enjoying, making good friends. Then if magic happens, woo hoo.
By the way, I will be following the Word of Wisdom in my dating, just so you know...
I suppose what it comes down to is this...I really like myself. I don't mind being alone, in fact I enjoy my own company often dining out, to movies, shopping solo. I love being with my girls (gal pals) too. I'm not in need of a man. But how fun would it be, especially when I become an empty nester, to have a spouse to play with; cook, travel, hang out, dance, etc. Especially a good man that my boys can respect and appreciate.
I'm not overly eager time-wise for the splendour of finding the right guy. I'm not an "agenda" gal, however I will weed out those that I know won't work well with my style. I'm not afraid, but I am cautious. Actually, I think I'm pretty well settled, balanced, confident, know what I'm looking for, and particular. My new fella will be my whipping cream on an already well prepared chocolate mousse, not my main ingredient.
I do love to cook. I'm an experimentor (my poor children :). Gardening, moving furniture around, playing Martha Stewart -- yeah baby!
I love being positive, and laughing is my medicine. I do it often and create it the majority of the time. I love a man with a great sense of humor, nothing is more sexy.
I enjoy stimulating conversation, I love to be busy and create in many different ways. Yet to balance, I know there is also a time for stillness. It's way cool to not have to say anything at all when I'm hanging out with my honey. Just being together is powerful and peaceful.
I love to sing. I've been a professional singer most of my life. Not so much the training opera type, more so the torch singer; Streisand, Celine Dion, Mariah Carey, Whitney Houston 'ish stuff. I love the primal cleansing of singing powerfully and then soft and tenderly. I have made big cowboys cry, and children ask their parents if I'm "Ariel," is that fun? :)
I dress for success all the time; when I'm home I'm successful at being comfortable in my jammy pants. I love formal attire affairs to eating hot dogs in the ball park in jeans and funny hats.
I wish you all the best during this endeavor of yours, whether your success is with me or someone else. Pray about it, as will I, our Father in Heaven is waiting to guide and bless us.
Happy Journey! Perhaps we'll talk to each other...