You will find me silly & fun but extremely giving, and I especially love to cook. I look very young for my age, but I love being a grandma. I enjoy working out and love singing classical art songs and opera arias. Hiking and gardening make me happy, and I love to cook over a fire. You'll find me extremely driven and goal oriented, but I'm also very patient. I can handle extremely stressful situations like water off a duck's back. I had to get something from raising all those boys alone.

I love my family and all children, and I have my priorities straight. I have a job, but I believe that traditional roles are best when raising a family. Kids need their mommy at all ages...even when they are a teenager, but daddies are just as important. (If you don't pay your child support or are not involved with your kids...don't contact me!) I believe in commitment through all life's challenges and life can get messy. I'm in for the long haul! If you write off life's messes as "drama", we definitely won't click! I've raised a large family on my own...and it definitely came with a lot of drama. However, things are more settled with all my children as adults.

I stay very fit, but I still have weight to lose...if that is an issue, and you can't navigate large curves...move on!. I work on the interior of my beauty and one day the outside will go (even though the gym helps me hopefully delay that a bit)! I eat really healthy and strive to be the best I can, but I'm not looking for perfection. I would love to help someone with their gym or health goals...but I do make wicked chocolate eclairs. So if your priorities are somewhere in the same vicinity, (or if you like chocolate eclairs-wink) contact me. Realize that a man that can be trusted and is devoted means a lot to me even if he's out of shape. I like a man with some weight on him anyway.

What is important is commitment, integrity, a strong work ethic, a desire to be close to your maker and Saviour, an unbiased attitude toward others, and the ability to discuss and converse with your mate by letting down barriers and trusting to create that eternal relationship. Willingness to work on these areas does count. We all have growing to do but strong self-esteem to allow me to be who I am is essential. I'm very aggressive with personal growth and would only be interested in someone that isn't threatened by that.

I am attracted to intelligent burly men that show their emotions, are secure with themselves, educated and are honest. I'm looking for someone that has children, has finished college and has experienced marriage before. Someone that is committed for the long haul through thick or thin...because...I am! Good Daddies get my attention. Never been a daddy or family man-no deal. I'm looking for a man that can communicate, open up and is willing to create a soul to soul emotionally and physically close eternal marital relationship. If that is you-start with a nice long written communication with your message.

I believe what my mother taught me was very true and valuable. "The way to a man's heart is straight through his stomach" and I'm a fabulous cook. (wink) However, she also taught me to love and support my man. That the little gestures count and help to empower and strengthen him for his own fight of the world. You'll find me very loving and supportive in a marital role. I believe we create the relationship we want with two people willing to put the Lord and each other first. Of course family is so important within it all; but if you won't communicate, you can't build anything.

I've heard the following words to describe me: Happy, vivacious, energetic, curvy, athletic, together, animated, kinetic, visual, positive, spiritual, talkative, graceful, musical, colorful, motivated, vibrant, loving, honest, fun, but most of all...I'm a good mommy.

P.S. I prefer men in my age range. Please be at least 47yrs-65yrs old to contact me.

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I'm looking for someone that is REAL or wants to become so!

"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"

"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."

"Does it hurt?"

"Sometimes." For he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up, or bit by bit?"

"It doesn't happen all at once. You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't often happen to people who break easily, or who have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby.

But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."

"I suppose you are Real?" And then he wished he had not said it for he thought the Skin Horse might be sensitive. But the Skin Horse only smiled.

"The Boy's Uncle made me Real. That was a great many years ago; but once you are Real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always."

From the Velveteen Rabbit

by Margery Williams(br /)

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Thanks so much for taking the time to review my profile. I love to write, and I know my profile is way too long. So I appreciate you being so diligent to muddle through it.

I'm looking for a man that will share my love of music, reading and learning, the gospel, family and the performing arts. I'm sure that is too tall of an order. However what's really important is honesty and a man that communicates who is secure in is own skin. I find this is rare. I am hoping that he can relate and be a mentor to my sons in the gospel. They are very macho boys and wonderful, but they don't embrace the gospel. This tears at my heart daily, yet I know the Lord has a plan.

Are you secure in your manhood enough to share feelings and have your spiritual side in order? If you're not at least secure, my sons will chew you up and spit you out! No milktoast Peter Priesthoods. Where are the George Washingtons of the world? Do they make men like that anymore? President Hinkley was one....so are many of the leaders in the gospel. Yet I believe they've had the security of a woman's love to help them arrive there. That is what I can provide.

If you are MY man, you'll find that I love very deeply with total devotion of heart, mind, body and soul. I will be your best friend and lover, I'll communicate with you and let you in to my hopes, dream, fears and sorrows. You'll find me willing to grow, explore, laugh, cry, love your children, be there for you and them, and give of myself 150% to create an eternal marriage. I really don't expect perfection, but I do expect total devotion to family and commitment to the relationship, honesty, communication and a willingness to grow.

So when looking on this site, I check education level, if the person has kids (preferably more than one), and if they are willing to write a bit about themselves to me. I figure if they can't communicate in writing, I'm barking up the wrong tree. I call it a bit of 18th century courting. If they have an interest in music, sing or play an instrument, then it's frosting on the cake.

Oh, and by the way, I don't care if you're out of shape, don't have money, or hair, but if you can make me laugh you definitely get bonus points. I do have one shallow request...If you're skinny, and I could take you down with one wrestling move, I've gotta pass. We all have our thing.

Anyway, I'm wondering if you'll share with me who you are, your dreams & aspirations, what's important to you, how you spend your days, how you wish you could spend your days, or anything you'd like to share about yourself.

I'd be glad to return the favor and then venture onto a phone call and a possible short public meeting. From there...who knows!