It starts with an initial attraction and intrigue. Partly something specific, and partly something that is beyond what is readily identifiable or understood. Conversation is relaxed. It transitions easily from playful chatter and laughter to engaging explorations of deeper thoughts and perspectives. Honesty and openness is so complete and ever present that trust and understanding develops quickly and never waivers. There is enough overlap of common interests that there is a growing enjoyment of doing things together, some new to one or the other, some familiar to both. Moments accumulate and a relationship develops, with ever increasing detail and intricacy. The initial attraction becomes a grossly distorted bias that becomes entrenched and unshakable. In deference to the other, each person strives consistently to be a better person, attending to attributes and habits that were perhaps neglected a bit or underdeveloped. With each person bringing certain skills, abilities, energies and resources, there is a capacity to do much more together. With stalwart support, each can venture forth more securely than they otherwise could, and together, anything can be achieved.
I don't have stellar attributes in all areas, but I was blessed with enough physical, intellectual, and emotional aptitude that a broad range of skills and abilities have been developed and refined over the years. I may not be as young or has handsome as some of the others that are out there, but with the myriad of character traits that are ultimately more important, I seem to have successfully developed an overall level that sets a satisfyingly high bar, relative to all the other fellows that I know and have met. (Sadly, many don't strive to achieve excellence. I guess I say sadly, because they then fall short of their potential, and many wonderful ladies then have to settle. Personally, it's great for me, because the competition for the best ladies doesn't seem to be very crowded.)
Quote from Infinite Atonement pg 243 "Whatever suffering it may cost you in your earthly life, whatever inconceivable purification it may cost you after death, whatever it costs Me, I will never rest, nor let you rest, until you are literally perfect" from C.S. Lewis, Joyful Christian, 77-78
I'm looking forward to meeting some great ladies, developing some lasting friendships, and having one rise gradually and naturally to the top.