Thea, pronounced Tia
On April 17, 2012 after 14 years of searching for the truth I prayed to Heavenly Father and told Him I was going to give up on going to churches to find the truth. I knew that the churches of today are not what God intendeds and I wasn’t going to be a part of those churches in my search any longer. I went to bed that night and the next day my life changed.
My brother introduced me to his friend. We were talking about dating and anything that could get in the way. He said he was LDS. I didn’t know what that was. He then said he was Mormon. Ok, I have heard of that denomination but I didn’t know that much about it. So I asked him to tell me about it. He gave me his testimony. That night, April 18th, I went on mormon.org and clicked the chat button. I was introduced to 2 missionary men. The next week, every day at 9 pm, we would meet online or over the phone to talk about the faith.
May 12, 2012 I was baptized and the next day, May 13th I was confirmed. The next day the Sisters came over to my home because I was a little down about my love life or the lack there of. I shared with them that I felt I was going to be alone for the rest of my life. One of the Sisters suggested that I get on LDSSingles.com and I told her that I wasn’t getting on another dating sight. No one seemed to be serious on those sights. She said they just left a house of a couple that met on there and that there are a lot of singles that are really nice on that sight.
So, at around 2 am Tuesday morning, I was putting my profile together. I was very tired and acting goofy and mentioned that I wasn’t going to pursue anyone, the man would have to pursue me. I said that I wanted a man that thought about me during the day and on his way home would stop by the side of the road and bring me wild flowers or a rock. “You know, you come home and say, ‘hi honey, I was thinking of how strong my love is for you and brought you this rock.’” That part of my profile got a lot of responses.
That is when I got a “flirt” from Enduringtotheend.
The username got my attention because that is the question I always had when I went to different denominations. I wanted them to tell me what that meant, enduring to the end, when they say once saved always saved.
I made a rule that I would not give out my number to anyone until after we were talking for at least a week. Enduringtotheend asked for my phone number the next day…I gave it.
I had gone through some rough times with women I had dated. I was engaged to an LDS woman who I met on another sight that lived in Salt Lake City, Utah for about a week and then we called it off. Then this one-day I was at an event with the church and the Stake President came over to my table and asked how my girl was. I told him that we were no longer together. He proceeded to tell me why I should get involved with single activities and I told him I wasn’t interested but he was persistent. So, I succumbed and told him I would. That night I got on LDSSingles.com and put my profile up. I put the age limit between 30-40. I was only going to talk to women that were active in the church. Later that night I spoke with a friend who told me that I needed to widen my age search because she thought I needed someone a little older than me. I took her advice and widen my search to 45. That is when AGirl2010 came up. She was 41. One year off my original search. I sent her a flirt and that is how it all started.
What is so amazing about our story is that the timeline of when we were told by her Sister Missionaries in Tennessee and my Stake President in Kentucky to get on this sight was within 24 hours of each other.
I sent the flirt on May 17th. I got her phone number and met her for the first time that weekend. Our first date was Sunday morning and I took her to church. Before she got in the car I laid a rock on the seat for her to find when I opened her door to sit down. We couldn’t stay away from each other after that.
That Wednesday I went back to TN but her older children were not ready to meet me. I did meet her parents. That weekend I attended her church again. The next Wednesday she came to my place and met my children and parents. That weekend she attended my church. The following Wednesday I met her children, then had to go back to work on Thursday in KY. I drove back on Friday the 8th and we went to Shane Co. and picked out our rings….we were getting married. Thea called the Bishop of her church and asked if he would perform the wedding ceremony the next day.
June 9, 2012 after 3 weeks from meeting on LDSSingles we married. We have no doubt that we have found our eternity partner, our soul mate. We are having a renewal ceremony for her family on November 17, 2012, which happens to be my parents wedding anniversary and then In May of 2013 we plan on getting sealed in the Nauvoo Temple.
It truly is amazing and unique how our story began. Thea was a new member only 4 days before we met. I’ve been a member my whole life. All within a month she found the truth, was baptized and confirmed, met her soul mate, got married and received her Patriarchal Blessing. We are the happiest we have ever been and we know that we were close in the pre-existence. We know that with our commitment to each other and to Heavenly Father we will reach the highest degree in the Celestial Heaven.
While the Internet was the tool used to bring us together it is also a tool to tear people apart. We safeguarded ourselves during our dating time of 3 weeks by getting off LDSSingles.com and deleting our Facebook accounts. We didn’t want any distractions. We wanted to concentrate on our relationship and where it could go. Since our marriage we have rejoined Facebook to share our lives with family and friends with a “couple” page. When you are married it is best to be together on Facebook not apart. It’s a safeguard for our marriage. We had no idea it would move so fast in the direction of marriage but when you know…you know.